i just have to complain for one minute about this ongoing annoyance in my life.
there are a subset of people that are our friends. and obviously we like doing things for our friends. and as i am good at planning - i often take the responsibility of making reservations. and putting deposits on things. or buying advance tickets. etc.
but repeatedly this subset of our friends waits until the last minute, typically 2 or 3 days before an event, to let us know that oh - they can’t make it. and i’m left with non-refundable tickets to something like a movie or a camping reservation that i have to #1 call and cancel and #2 not get a full refund on. and it’s SO ANNOYING. because they very rarely offer to reimburse me for this. and i feel like i’m always the losing party. and it’s usually small money, like $20 here or $30 there and out of this group of friends, i do have a larger income than most of them. but i really don’t think that means that i should have to pay for their poor planning. especially since this is a repeat occurrence. and i try to brush it off as whatever, but when it keeps happening it’s increasingly annoying and it’s harder to just ignore.
basically. as of now i’m done making plans and putting down deposits for this group of people. because it’s ridiculous and i don’t want to be continually disappointed and hold grudges over these small dumb things.